I met Kayla a month after I moved to SF and I don’t know what I would do without her here! She is my partner in adventure and one of the most positive and curious people I know. I think it’s so funny that we grew up 20 minutes away from each other in New York but it wasn’t until we moved across the country that we finally met. Life is lovely that way. I hope you enjoy Kayla’s insight as much as I did. :)
Hometown: Hudson Falls, NY
Current City: San Francisco, CA
Occupation: Massage Therapist
Why did you decide to move across the country? How has that move changed you?
I decided to move across the country for many reasons; the biggest being growth, improvement, advancement or anything I could do to strengthen my newly found independence. At home I felt I had accomplished all I wanted, high school, college, a wonderful start to my career, good friends, a loving family.
But with everything in place–not to sound cliche–something was still missing, this new independence could only be heightened by setting off for my first “city experience,” where I could learn how to completely be on my own. I have found so much goodness in being alone here, I learn more and more who I am supposed to be each day.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned in love or from having your heart broken?
That sometimes two souls meet, they fall in love, lust, passion, contentment, happiness in yourself you find in others. You learn from each other, grow together, and with each intimate experience you take something new from that love, your heart has grown to a new understanding; compassion.
What do you do to cheer yourself up?
Anything outdoors in the sun will surely cheer me up, a simple day at the beach or in the park.
What words do you live by?
“Better to be the one who smiled than the one who didn’t smile back.” –Unknown
What is the best piece of advice you’ve been given?
Most recently, that your 20s are for you and to worry about a more serious lifestyle when you’re in your 30s. The more I say “yes” to the more gracious opportunities flood in to my life, I am very optimistic about my future. And I truly feel that with every new adventure, new connection, experience or new day, I am shaping who I want to be for the rest of my life.
What a better way to look at life–it’s not about what you want to be when you grow up, its about who you want to be.
Is there a movie, song, book, or person that has changed your life?
I am overly grateful and I truly cherish a number of women in my life that have influenced or “changed” my life especially in this last year.
From my grandmother to my mother, my aunts and a lot of beautiful little cousins, to all of my wonderful girlfriends and some of the greatest teachers a girl could have, they’ve stood by me sharing their life journeys and experiences, each one of them with their own special story of how they got where they are now, encouraging me to pursue my journey, and carry on with this new world I’m creating for myself. I hold a piece of them with me everyday and I thank god for each and every one of these beautiful women in my life.
MUCH LOVE for all of you, thank you for your unconditional love back.
Love always and more,