A Facebook friend post this article today, which is a follow-up to the original article on xoJane. They are the story of a freshman woman attending Duke University who works as a porn star to pay for college.
She writes, “I saw a way to graduate from my dream school free of debt, doing something I absolutely love. Because to be clear: My experience in porn has been nothing but supportive, exciting, thrilling and empowering.”
At first I was surprised to hear her use those words to describe her profession. The more I thought about it, the more I wondered, why can’t she use those words to describe it? I know many people who don’t know where they are headed or what they are passionate about, yet she has found a job that she loves. Yes, that job is in the porn industry, and yes, it makes others uncomfortable because it is different, or because of religion, or because it’s a taboo topic.
But just because it is different from what other people love or would choose as a profession, does that mean others are allowed to criticize or judge her? How does someone who chooses to be a mailman, for example, become superior enough to verbally assault someone who chooses to be a porn star? The hate this woman has received is appalling. How does any human deserve that kind of treatment? The answer is no one does. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, but we don’t have the right to use those opinions to threaten, harm, or put someone down just because their choices–whether it’s who they love or what they do–don’t align with ours.
The world is a hard enough place to be who you are. Different should not be ostracized.