I’ve been kind of a book snob lately. The past two books I’ve started reading I haven’t finished, and not even for solid reasons. I wasn’t smitten, I guess.
So when I went to the bookstore with my boyfriend last week, I was so excited to get two new books, both of which I was really excited about. Don’t you love when you have a few good books to read and the hardest decision is which one to read first? Ah, so nerdy. I read MWF Seeking BFF first, mainly because Rachel Bertsche’s life sounded exactly like mine. It is a memoir about a woman who recently moved to Chicago with her husband and wants to find local best friends, seeing as how her true best friends (or “lifers”) are back in New York. She launches a one-girl-date-a-week plan for a year in order to conquer her quest.
I was a little skeptical of the amounts of research included at first. Ordinarily, I hate when outside research takes my attention away from the story at hand. But in this case, it proved to work effortlessly. Reading the research, along with Bertsche’s account, helped each to better inform the other. It also made it easier to relate to, since most of the research was based on social norms, friendship trends, etc.
What I loved most about the book was the constant adage that someone who admits she doesn’t have a lot of friends isn’t a loser. She is stronger for opening herself up and doing something about a situation that she is unhappy with. The other thing that Bertsche discovered was that people almost always want more friends as well, even if they don’t seek them out as vigilantly as Bertsche did. It’s also eerily creepy how similar romantic dating is to friend dating.
Reading this book, I couldn’t help but think of my own best friends, especially because two of them are long-distance, and the other two I only see frequently over the summer when we’re both home. As Bertsche discovers on her journey, there is nothing better than a girlfriend. No matter how close you may be to your boyfriend or your mom, there is no one that can fill the void of a best girlfriend. And as I read the book and thought back upon my own experiences and memories, I believe that to be absolutely true.